Research Highlight: Fulfilment is a super skill
Of the most successful 10% of people in a sample of 21,000, 91% scored “I am contented, joyous and fulfilled” with ‘very often’ or ‘nearly always’.
Sadness (disappointment), fear (anxiety) and anger (frustration) are easy emotional traps to fall into. Far too many indulge in these destructive reactions. They will leave you in perpetual freeze, flight and fight states. This is deep suffering and ineffective.
Only 4% of the least resilient people score fulfilment with ‘very often’ or ‘nearly always’.
Question: What is the constructive emotion for this moment?
Condition: Be intolerant of complaint, frustration and blame
Discipline: Actively seek positive emotional expression
Caution: When necessary, tell your truth with courage and empathy
What you can do right now?
- In every moment – even the darkest – there is a positive response. In sadness there is learning and growth. In fear there is courage and calm. In anger there is tolerance and altruism. Be assertive in searching and expressing the positive response.
- Complaint spreads discomfort. Reject it. Frustration disables you. Reject it. Blame steals your power. Reject it. Respect, experience and name these negative reactions. They are real. Use the signal to say “NO”. Seek the positive angle.
- Learn to strengthen your positive emotions. If sad, seek the lesson learned. Be grateful. If afraid, seek calm presence. Be content. If angry, seek kindness. Be compassionate. If fatigued, seek energy. Be resilient.
Positive emotions are like muscles. If you work on them, they will get stronger. Even the toughest moments can be fulfilling. Enjoy your discomfort. Appreciate the moment. Strengthen your joy.
In the background:
- Secure your sleep
- Stay physically fit
- Relax, breathe or meditate
- Work on connection with those who matter to you